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Integrity : (from integer) to be whole or complete. In Jim Dethmer's meaning the word drops its ethical connotations and assumes the meaning of energetic wholeness and being fully alive . radical responsibility : we move from blaming others and external circumstances to taking full responsibility for our actions and emotions feel your feelings : sweeping emotions under the rug is a sure way of not being whole with ourselves and will eventually move us from being in control to being controlled by the amazing amount of energy that it takes us to suppress those emotions candor : when we hold back we detach, and when we detach can't feel energetic wholeness be impeccable in your agreements : in Charlie Munger's words be dependable. When you cannot keep your agreements, say so as early as you can Sources: https://fs.blog/knowledge-project-podcast/jim-dethmer-2/ https://conscious.is/concepts/the-four-pillars-of-integrity   Addendum: on Rituals A ritual is an invitation to somet...

A few years ago I told my therapist that I felt conflicted about thinking about work when I was not at work. For example, while doing the dishes, being at the park with the kids, or riding the bike with them. As my therapist encouraged me to do ( what is the question? he would patiently ask when I would share a statement without a question), I then asked him: "Does that make me a bad father or husband?" What he said next, had a huge impact on how I felt about some of my actions. He asked me back: what is the one universal attribute that can make anything good or bad? I gave up after a solid 5 minutes, and then he revealed the answer to me: it's quantity. How much are you thinking about work? All the time, or every once in a while, when idling? Do you feel that it's so much that you are neglecting something or someone else more important (including myself)? It's like chocolate, he continued: one spoon is ok, the whole jar not quite. Or wine: a glass is probably fi...

I once asked my therapist: I often find myself thinking about work while I'm not working, for example while doing house chores, watching my kids at the park, etc. and I'm not sure how to feel about it. Does that make me a bad father/partner? Nutella for Breakfast, source He asked me back: what's the attribute of every thing that can make it bad or good? No matter how much I thought about it I could not answer the question. After a pause, he then said: it's quantity. Are you thinking about work all the time while at the park, or just a moment? Think about it: a glass of wine is good, but a bottle isn't. A spoon of chocolate spread is ok, maybe even healthy. The whole jar isn't.