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What we call perception is other people's reality Have you ever heard somebody say: yes, but we are perceived as <adjective>? as a way to say we're not quite like that, it's their fault for not seeing us differently, etc. In other words we're not taking responsibility. Stop right there and remember that how we are perceived is other people's reality. And it's our responsibility to change it , should we not be ok with it. And it's our fault if we don't. As the saying goes: we have to deal with world as it is, not as we wish it it would be

A wise man said: Our ideas can be either ignored or misunderstood. And we don't get to choose. After a certain point it does not matter how much we refine our communication, it will never mean exactly what we think it does. And that's why it's more important to listen, than to talk: so that we can correct what must be corrected and ignore the rest because it will be distracting.